2014年4月27日星期日

I'm back!

After disappear about 2 years, I am back to continue blogging, to share about my life and career experiences and reflections on my encounters with patients and families. It reminds me that blogging also can be a life imprint for myself and most importantly to share information with my friends and others in this lovely planet.

Looking back at these 2 years, I have really gone through a lot in life as well as in my career, from a teaching profession to clinical practice, nonetheless I am still a counselor! Currently, I am specializing in hospice care as a hospice counselor. I love to do work related to humanity, living and dying, with this I hope to share with you. Stay tuned!

2011年10月18日星期二

3G-Gratitude

Things to be grateful:

1.) Be grateful that I have healthy body and mind until this mid 20's.

2.) Be grateful that I have a good profession and able to educate and help people.

3.) Be grateful that I am well-educated with bachelor and master qualification when I am just 26.

4.) Be grateful that I can learrn dharma and share the Buddha teaching with human beings.

5.) Be grateful that I have an intact family.

6.) Be grateful that I have good masters, colleagues, friends and peers.

7.) Be grateful that I have no worries about my finance, health, security, and spirituality need.

8.) Be grateful that I have full potential to grow in term of career advancement and personal development.

9.) Be grateful that I always get support and help from all mitras and the wise one.

10.) Last but not least, be grateful that I can still SMILE and BREATHE!

2011年1月23日星期日

輔導實習分享(二)

第一個獨力接見的病人個案是八歲的雙生女,發現與小孩的接觸特別相契,可能跟本身成長多與小孩接觸有關吧!接下來的病人從小孩到八十歲老人,個案有家庭、自殺、壓力、憂鬱、緊張、創傷、行為、適應等問題,接觸面蠻廣,要真正處理好一方面的,需要很多經驗。

到現在,最印象深刻的個案,是位不肯做切割腳手術的,很封閉自己。他也只跟我表達他的意願。沒想到隔天,病人就突然逝世了。那突發起來的讓我感覺還有很多還沒做到的,爲什麽我沒在之前做得更好,我還可以這樣那樣。。。那次后我更加珍惜跟每位病人的接觸,因我們都不懂下一刻會如何的?!

基本這一來除了學習很多輔導技巧,語言與非語言的;我想更重要的是本身的一些內涵的轉變,如投入認真、同理、慈悲等,之前也許都在課本上或在那裡聽得很多,可此時此刻才真正化為己有。還有的是,生命更深一層的體會,我想這對與人生是至關重要的,對於日後要走的路是起著重要的作用。感恩一路來非一般的督導與病人的教授!

2011年1月20日星期四

輔導實習分享(一)

在醫院實習算算下也有一個月了,現在才有時間和心情寫下心得,不會透露太多病人的故事,而想對於自己的心路歷程做一些回顧與整理。

踏進冷冰冰的醫院就嗅到一種味道,這是醫院的味道。接著見到出名“嚴厲”的上司兼督導,這星期真的被她磨到,無論是自己的表現,技巧,知識或性格,都被批評,有點掉到谷底的感覺,甚至有想過放棄在醫院實習,可是後來有浴火重生的感覺,哈,這是置諸死地而後生嗎?!這星期的情緒可謂坐過山車般的大起大落,還把情緒帶回家,還蠻慘的。這後來讓我學習到不把個案帶回家,甚至見完病人后,就立刻放下情緒。其實放下情緒只是不被情緒干擾接下來的個案或生活,可是影響還是有的,無論是人生觀或個人身心的,尤其對於生命的體會更貼切了。

在開始和督導見病人到自個兒接個案,戰戰兢兢到把自己投入在每個病人,把自己從沒認真對待到學習把自己放到病人身上。自己才真真體會做著輔導是怎麼一回事,個人的技巧甚至生命也在不斷起著顯著的變化。看見了人的苦迫,也看見了人需要被瞭解。

看見了身心的苦痛,我更加珍惜擁有的;
看見了身體的缺失,我不再理所當然的活著;
看見了破碎的關係,更加珍惜與每個人的相處;

待續。。。

2010年12月27日星期一

The greatest gift

"I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, understood and touched by them and the greatest gift I can give is to see, to hear, to understand and to touch another person. When this has been done, I feel contact has been made"

(Virginia Satir)