輔導實習分享（二）

第一個獨力接見的病人個案是八歲的雙生女，發現與小孩的接觸特別相契，可能跟本身成長多與小孩接觸有關吧！接下來的病人從小孩到八十歲老人，個案有家庭、自殺、壓力、憂鬱、緊張、創傷、行為、適應等問題，接觸面蠻廣，要真正處理好一方面的，需要很多經驗。

到現在，最印象深刻的個案，是位不肯做切割腳手術的，很封閉自己。他也只跟我表達他的意願。沒想到隔天，病人就突然逝世了。那突發起來的讓我感覺還有很多還沒做到的，爲什麽我沒在之前做得更好，我還可以這樣那樣。。。那次后我更加珍惜跟每位病人的接觸，因我們都不懂下一刻會如何的？！

基本這一來除了學習很多輔導技巧，語言與非語言的；我想更重要的是本身的一些內涵的轉變，如投入認真、同理、慈悲等，之前也許都在課本上或在那裡聽得很多，可此時此刻才真正化為己有。還有的是，生命更深一層的體會，我想這對與人生是至關重要的，對於日後要走的路是起著重要的作用。感恩一路來非一般的督導與病人的教授！

輔導實習分享（一）

在醫院實習算算下也有一個月了，現在才有時間和心情寫下心得，不會透露太多病人的故事，而想對於自己的心路歷程做一些回顧與整理。

踏進冷冰冰的醫院就嗅到一種味道，這是醫院的味道。接著見到出名“嚴厲”的上司兼督導，這星期真的被她磨到，無論是自己的表現，技巧，知識或性格，都被批評，有點掉到谷底的感覺，甚至有想過放棄在醫院實習，可是後來有浴火重生的感覺，哈，這是置諸死地而後生嗎？！這星期的情緒可謂坐過山車般的大起大落，還把情緒帶回家，還蠻慘的。這後來讓我學習到不把個案帶回家，甚至見完病人后，就立刻放下情緒。其實放下情緒只是不被情緒干擾接下來的個案或生活，可是影響還是有的，無論是人生觀或個人身心的，尤其對於生命的體會更貼切了。

在開始和督導見病人到自個兒接個案，戰戰兢兢到把自己投入在每個病人，把自己從沒認真對待到學習把自己放到病人身上。自己才真真體會做著輔導是怎麼一回事，個人的技巧甚至生命也在不斷起著顯著的變化。看見了人的苦迫，也看見了人需要被瞭解。

看見了身心的苦痛，我更加珍惜擁有的；
看見了身體的缺失，我不再理所當然的活著；
看見了破碎的關係，更加珍惜與每個人的相處；

待續。。。

The greatest gift

"I believe the greatest gift I can conceive of having from anyone is to be seen by them, understood and touched by them and the greatest gift I can give is to see, to hear, to understand and to touch another person. When this has been done, I feel contact has been made"

(Virginia Satir)

情感的轉化

情感的轉化可以在一瞬間的。
把負面的情感轉化到正面的事情上；
正面的事情又讓自己的情感得以轉化為正面。
我們的情感、認知和行為是相互作用，相互影響的。
別讓負面的繼續深化，惡化，讓它傷害自己，也傷害他人。

Virginia Satir quotes

“I am Me. In all the world, there is no one else exactly like me. Everything that comes out of me is authentically mine, because I alone chose it -- I own everything about me: my body, my feelings, my mouth, my voice, all my actions, whether they be to others or myself. I own my fantasies, my dreams, my hopes, my fears. I own my triumphs and successes, all my failures and mistakes. Because I own all of me, I can become intimately acquainted with me. By so doing, I can love me and be friendly with all my parts. I know there are aspects about myself that puzzle me, and other aspects that I do not know -- but as long as I am friendly and loving to myself, I can courageously and hopefully look for solutions to the puzzles and ways to find out more about me. However I look and sound, whatever I say and do, and whatever I think and feel at a given moment in time is authentically me. If later some parts of how I looked, sounded, thought, and felt turn out to be unfitting, I can discard that which is unfitting, keep the rest, and invent something new for that which I discarded. I can see, hear, feel, think, say, and do. I have the tools to survive, to be close to others, to be productive, and to make sense and order out of the world of people and things outside of me. I own me, and therefore, I can engineer me. I am me, and I am Okay.” ~ Virginia Satir (1916-1988), American Phychologist and Educator